Thursday, March 31, 2011

What I'm Reading: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Here’s a brief overview of What I’m Reading:
 

Currently, I’m reading “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie.  I remember having to read this, along with Stephen Covey’sThe 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” in undergrad and I honestly don’t remember a thing from either book.  My memory recalls fervently reading each of these texts before an exam, and then quickly forgetting anything I’d learn.
 

So this time, as I read “How to Win Friends…”, it’s almost as if I never read it before.  I first started by checking out it’s Wikipedia Entry, but nothing about that helped job my memory, so I ended up getting the audiobook from my local library.  As I’ve travelled from place to place this past weekend, I’ve had ample time to listen to the text, and I’m finding it to be quite informative.
 

I’m sure this book is considered to be “a classic”, and it definitely has some information that I think many of us are glossing over in this day and age of “social media”, where everyone’s interested in “transparency” and “open-ness” to the point where they’ve forgotten some of the basic tenets of civility, respect, and friendliness towards their fellow man.

I think this book is providing a great “refresher course” on being amicable, of course, I’m not quite at the “how to influence people” part yet, but I’m eager to get to that, so that I can see how it compares with Robert Greene’s48 Laws of Power”.


So, that’s What I’m Reading.  If you ever happen to read this book, let me know what you think.  


Have a Blessed Day!

Kindra
 

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Tuesday, March 29, 2011

The Adventures of Good Days

Today's podcast is entitled "The Adventures of Good Days" in reference to a conversation I was having with someone where they said "Everyone's entitled to a bad day".



That got me to thinking: While everyone is ENTITLED to a bad day, that doesn’t mean everyone has one.  A long time ago, I determined that I wouldn’t ever have a “bad day”.  Sure, some days are tougher to get through than others, but I wouldn’t call them “bad”. 
 

Maybe it’s because I get overly reflective after having another birthday, but I think of any day alive and breathing above ground as a “Good Day”.  I had my fair share of birthday wishes and good natured ribbing about getting older, and it occurred to me: Be happy that you’re allowed to live another day and get older, because getting older is a privilege that is denied to many! 

Yes, I tend to get more philosophical as I get older, but that’s just because I’m getting better each day! LOL.

I’m happy to report that I had a great birthday weekend, and the month of March appears to be ending on a high note for me, so I’m excited!  I’ve been reading “How to Win Friends and Influence People” lately, and that along with a few other books I’ve been perusing like “Think and Grow Rich” and “The 48 Laws of Power” really appear to be shaping my philosophy on life, wealth building, and just plain “being”.  My struggles are I’m still trying to make it in this world, because just being “alive” isn’t quite enough for me, and my triumphs are that I’m still winning (though not Charlie Sheen-style. LOL).
 

Please feel free to leave comments below or give me your feedback directly, either by email “podcasts @ exclusivemultiplicity.com”, or by finding me on Facebook, Twitter (@KindraCotton), or LinkedIn.  You can also contact me via Skype at my name Kindra.Cotton, and you can now call me on my Google Voice line at: (201) 870-0234.  If you leave a message on my Google Voicemail line, please be sure to mention which podcast you listened to.
 
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Kindra

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

The Adventures of Celebration

Today's podcast is entitled "The Adventures of Celebration" in honor of my personal week-long celebration of my birthday this weekend.  One day, my goal is for Aretha Franklin, Elton John, and I to celebrate OUR BIRTHDAY together and sing "Happy Birthday" in unison (it could happen).


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Kindra

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

The Adventures of Selling Out

This week's podcast episode is entitled "The Adventures of Selling Out".


A few weeks ago, I got an offer to “sell my company”, but the offer wasn’t for money, nor was it even to buy an equity stake in a firm that I could help grow as a capable business professional.  It was more so someone who saw (what they thought) was an opportunity to use my current state of “misfortune” for the sake of their own profitability.

Now, to be clear, I certainly believe that I have a skill set that can be merged with the right entity to form a powerhouse organization to take the social media and small business worlds by storm, but it’s not a skill set that can be acquired for pennies on the dollar, or in this case no pennies on the dollar.  I walk away from the “opportunity” with a stronger sense of confidence in my abilities, knowing that I am on the right path and going in the right direction, and eventually, that all my hard work, and continued striving will soon pay off.

But this whole thing got me to thinking about the notion of “selling out”.  Someone recently told me that the right way to start a business is to design it with the end in mind, and that end, if my goal was to build a successful business, was to create something that someone else would want to buy a few years down the line.  Clearly good advice for any serial entrepreneur to follow, so I had to think “what am I (or any particular business entity that I’m involved in) worth, and more importantly, what am I willing to “sell” or “sell out” in order to get what I want out of life?”.

There was a time when I used to say that “I didn’t have a price”, meaning that my integrity and reputation couldn’t be bought.  Now that I’m older, having faithfully held on to my principles and integrity, I can now see how it has been a liability in certain circumstances, especially in scenarios where I could have profited, if only I was willing to lie or deceive (even for a short while) to achieve some “greater good”.  Additionally, having gotten to my “bottom dollar” point, I now see some things based through “the eyes of poverty” that weren’t quite as clear to me when I had on those rose colored middle class glasses.

That doesn’t mean that I’ve now set a price on my integrity and principles, but it does mean I’m not so na├»ve as to not put a price on what it would cost for me to waiver or altogether chuck the values I hold most dear.  I recently watched “The Inside Job” which is the Academy Award winning documentary about the recent Wall Street meltdown and recession that many of us are still suffering within, despite everyone talking about a “better economy”.  What made me see the film, aside from the fact that I LOVE documentaries, is that I happened to turn to the Oscars broadcast this year, right when the creators were receiving their award, and they mentioned that no one person responsible for the meltdown had been criminally prosecuted or even investigated.
 

This was interesting, though not surprising to me, because I don’t think that anything substantive will ever be done to those that caused all the problems on Wall Street, because many of them are still in the same positions as they were before, even if they’ve moved on to other organizations.  They’re still pulling the strings that guide the way that money ebbs and flows between rich people, all at the expense of the poorer ones, and until they BECOME one of the poor ones (which is very unlikely) they won’t ever act in their best interest.

As I watched the documentary, I thought about all the “corporate bigwigs” who sat back and created this overly complicated, yet ridiculously simplistic scheme to earn millions while defrauding the uneducated and uninformed, and I WISH I could be shocked and/or appalled.  Yeah, what they did was terrible, but it seems to me so many people, even today, aren’t aware of it (or really don’t care) that it’s almost like a “victimless crime”.


Yes, everyone (including me) has negative commentary about “Wall Street BigWigs” and their greedy corporate malfeasance, but how many of us can actually NAME these bigwigs or know what company they worked for, and what they really did wrong.  I admit, until I saw the documentary, I didn’t know many of the executives that worked there, and even in cases where I knew company names like “Merrill Lynch”, “Bear Stearns”, “Lehman Brothers”, and “AIG”, I only knew superficially what each of these entities had done, and if I were quizzed (prior to a few days ago) on the subject, I likely would have failed.

So when I think of my somewhat lackadaisical response to the whole Wall Street debacle, I can only get but so upset that I have no one to talk about this documentary with, because no one I know has seen it.  Also, to be honest, as a person seeking to build “something” from “nothing”, I’m actually quite taken by the fact that they were able to make millions buying and selling these imaginary derivatives and playing with imaginary money, essentially creating something (in terms of billions for themselves in compensation and bonuses) from nothing, which is what most of the people effected by their actions ended up with.  I’m not saying what they did was right, in any way, just saying that I find it interesting, and it makes me wonder if I’d be able to stick to my own “high falutin principles” if there were millions or even billions at stake.  Would I sell out my fellow man, or what I believe in, to make a buck?  Sure, I say NO now, but that’s because I haven’t truly been confronted with a similar scenario.

What I can say, is on a regular basis I interact with people that are (or have been) clearly “taken” by someone who’s scruples are questionable and who’s seeking to use their ignorance against them, in the technology and social media realm, and as this field progresses, I can see that it’s ripe picking for anyone who’s willing to “bend the truth” or outright lie to people for short-term financial gain.  I also see that on some level, people don’t even WANT the truth, and they’re more than content to believe the lies you tell them, because they want to believe that they can get “something for nothing” or for very little investment, especially in terms of social media which so many people initially gravitate towards because it’s “free”.  But before I go off on a tangent, and forget my initial point, let me say this: I’ve thought about selling out, and the long-term implications of it, and as it stands today, my price hasn’t been met yet.  In fact, I still can’t quite think of a number that would make me vacate my principles, but I have to be honest and say there probably is one, even if I don’t know what it is. 

So, I’ve now committed this statement to text (and podcast) and am sending it out into the “social media space” and I fully expect this to come back and bite me should I later run for public office, or get caught up in some multibillion dollar scheme, and yes, I said BILLION, because let’s be real, millions really aren’t worth selling your soul for! LOL.

What about you? What’s your price to sell out? Have you ever thought about it, or do you have a number? 


Please feel free to leave comments below or give me your feedback directly, either by email “podcasts @ exclusivemultiplicity.com”, or by finding me on Facebook, Twitter (@KindraCotton), or LinkedIn.  You can also contact me via Skype at my name Kindra.Cotton, and you can now call me on my Google Voice line at: (201) 870-0234.  If you leave a message on my Google Voicemail line, please be sure to mention which podcast you listened to.
 
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Come back next week, and have a Blessed Day!
Kindra

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

The Adventures of Winning

In this week's podcast lightly touches on the debauchery that is Charlie Sheen and his philosophy on "Winning", or more specifically, it's entitled "The Adventures of Winning" because it's about me talking on the topic, which was spurred (in part) by Charlie's manic rantings.

Please feel free to leave comments below or give me your feedback directly, either by email “podcasts @ exclusivemultiplicity.com”, or by finding me on Facebook, Twitter (@KindraCotton), or LinkedIn.  You can also contact me via Skype at my name Kindra.Cotton, and you can now call me on my Google Voice line at: (201) 870-0234.  If you leave a message on my Google Voicemail line, please be sure to mention which podcast you listened to.
 
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Kindra

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

The Adventures of Dave and Busters

A love of Dave & Busters sparked this week's podcast of "The Adventures of Dave & Busters".  


Last week, I sent emails to some key people at “Dave & Busters” the entertainment chain that has 55 U.S. locations that offers family-friendly entertainment, food, and video games throughout the country.  The reason I did this is because I LOVE DAVE AND BUSTERS!  And I always have.  In fact, I have a Gold Rewards Membership to prove it!  

As an adult, it’s the equivalent of “Chuck E. Cheese” for me, and you just can’t beat the combination of Skee Ball and Long Island Iced Teas!
 

This is an understatement
If you recall, I also deemed last week as the start of my “Moving On” campaign, and part of that includes me moving to a new location, where I can start new, being in a place that’s supportive of me, my talents, and the skills that I know I can bring into the right environment.  

I’m not 100% sure that my move will mean that I leave Nashville, but after being here for nearly 5 years, I feel like if something were going to happen, it would have happened by now.  

So for that reason, I’ve opened myself up to ALL possibilities.  Which is how I ended up making Dave & Busters a focal point, as I look for a new locale.  When I moved to Nashville in 2006, they had a Dave & Busters location out at Opry Mills. But since the May 2010 flood, Nashville’s Dave & Busters has been shut down, and I’ve hated it.  Though I don’t have nearly as much disposable income as I used to, I hate that I can’t go and hang out there.  So, I decided, wherever I move to next, needs to be with 25 miles of a Dave and Busters location!  

This is something that’s important to me.  Just like the local library, and number of movie theaters or stores at the local mall, a Dave & Busters location is something I need for my overall quality of life to be better.  This is something I believe in! In fact, I take it so seriously, that I actually wrote several executives at Dave & Busters last week, pretty much telling them the same thing. I thought that someone, particular someone in their marketing department, might find my quest interesting, especially since someone’s gearing their new life plans off of being near their brand!

One of the things on my “Bucket List” or things I’d like to do before I die, is to visit EVERY Dave & Busters location.  They now have 55 in the U.S., and I’ve been to the one in Nashville, the two in the Chicagoland area, the one in Michigan (outside of Detroit), the one in St. Louis, the one in Indianapolis, and the THREE in the Atlanta area.  So that’s 10 down, only 45 more to go.  I’ve either visited or lived in each of the locations that I’ve mentioned, so all of those locales, with the exception maybe of Atlanta and Indianapolis, are off the list of potential future relocation destinations.  But I’m open to the possibilities!

What about you? Ever been to a Dave and Busters location? Am I alone in my love of the brand?  Please feel free to leave comments below or give me your feedback directly, either by email “podcasts @ exclusivemultiplicity.com”, or by finding me on Facebook, Twitter (@KindraCotton), or LinkedIn.  You can also contact me via Skype at my name Kindra.Cotton, and you can now call me on my Google Voice line at: (201) 870-0234.  If you leave a message on my Google Voicemail line, please be sure to mention which podcast you listened to.

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By the way, Transcripts are now available upon request.  If you want one, please email me at "transcripts[at]exclusivemultiplicity.com". 

Come back next week, and have a Blessed Day!
Kindra

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